Goal Setting - Why Bother?
Why bother with goals? A few weeks back I reached out to gain some insight around who sets goals and why. I know, cliche to ask the question given that it’s a new year, which seems to be when everyone is setting resolutions. But there is something to be said for the feeling of a fresh start to the year, month, week, or even a new day, so I thought it was worth a conversation.
The best way I can explain the purpose behind setting goals, is to think of jumping in your car (or mode of transportation). You wouldn’t typically jump in and just drive around without a destination, would you? The same can be said for setting goals. Without them, how do you know where you are headed? Or what about the feeling of celebration and accomplishment when you reach the destination? What id you don’t like the word goal? If the ‘g’word is a trigger for you, I’ve also used the words intentions, or purpose, or dreams. For the rest of the blog, we will refer to them as goals, but feel free to insert whichever word feels best for you.
Back to the research. Some of you were pretty clear on why you set goals, such as supporting you in staying focused, experiencing increased motivation, and having a way to help you in feeling accomplished. Others said they didn’t set goals because they felt the added pressure and fear that would follow if they didn’t achieve them, or were unclear about the best way to set them. These are all great answers, and I would say that I have experienced both sides of the spectrum. Sometimes, it feels great to set goals, while at other times, it feels overwhelming and a bit confusing. Anyone else with me? So, for those of you who don’t want to set goals, if they don’t work for you, that’s ok. It truly is. I am not about to say that everyone needs them in their life. And also, is it possible that you are setting them without actually realizing it? Have you ever planned a trip? Or looked for a job? Guess what…you were setting goals!
One of the questions I was most curious about, was what you wanted to learn about goal setting. There were some great ones around the psychology behind goal setting (this will be another article someday), but most of the questions asked what the best method is, and how to ensure you stay on track once they are set. The good news and the bad news… is that there is no one size fits all when it comes to methods. I have tried and tested so many, and the biggest deciding factor I have found when it comes to goal setting? Accountability! Because let’s face it, nobody can keep themselves motivated at all times. Whether the accountability comes from friends, family members, or a coach, it helps to have someone keep you on track.
So, I encourage you to set your goals, and make sure to share them! Tell everyone what you’re up to, and notice how much more inclined you are to achieve them. Even writing them down on paper has been proven to make it more likely that you will attain your goals. Still feeling stuck? As a coach, I support people to get clear on what they truly want, and then hold them accountable while they move forward. Send me an email, and we can set up a time to chat.